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00:04 if you and I were out during the break
00:07 talking and I said to you hey how much
00:10 money do you make who would be eager to
00:13 tell me about that like four people okay
00:18 cool
00:18 if I said instead hey I’m really curious
00:21 about you how much money do you make not
00:27 really much more what if I had said hey
00:31 I’ve got this energy healing practice
00:33 and it’s going really well and I’ve got
00:35 some great clients and they really like
00:36 the results and funny thing is I’m not
00:39 I’m not seem to be making the kind of
00:41 money I’m wanting to to like support a
00:43 life not really be able to charge the
00:46 for whatever reason the rates I think
00:48 that that I should be charging and I
00:50 don’t really know why I’ve got this
00:51 money thing going on like it’s been
00:54 around for a long time I almost didn’t
00:55 go to college because my mom didn’t want
00:57 to fill out the financial aid paperwork
00:59 like that’s that’s none of their
01:02 business we nobody needs to know about
01:04 that sort of thing so I’ve always had
01:05 this this money thing up and I’m hoping
01:07 to if I can like bring it up in
01:10 conversation and have a little openness
01:14 around it maybe have some financial
01:15 conversations it might sort of have less
01:20 of a grip on me
01:21 do you mind if I ask you how much money
01:23 do you make how many be willing to tell
01:26 me at that point almost everybody that’s
01:32 super interesting to me like why is that
01:35 this is for me it seems clear that
01:38 revealing my experience somehow has an
01:42 effect on what you guys are all willing
01:43 to share so we’re gonna talk about
01:48 revealing and part of the part of the
01:51 conversation for me in revealing is is
01:55 around agendas and so I want to start by
01:57 talking about agendas right
02:00 yeah they’re not always that bad but
02:03 here’s here’s here’s the worst kept
02:06 secret of all time you ready
02:08 we all have agendas all of the time and
02:12 we all know about it like you have
02:16 agendas your agenda in being here is to
02:18 learn about relational leadership my
02:21 agenda being here is to talk about how
02:24 wonderful revealing is and how important
02:26 I think it is and and and those are fine
02:28 no problem
02:29 we have less obvious agendas like it’s
02:33 my agenda in being here to feel good
02:36 about myself
02:37 it’s my agenda in being here to to
02:41 justify calling myself a relational
02:43 leader in front of my community so we
02:46 all have agendas here’s like big worst
02:51 kept secret number two we don’t always
02:54 reveal our agendas and we all know that
02:58 like who’s surprised by that we all have
03:01 agendas and we all we don’t always
03:03 reveal them nobody we always have
03:07 agendas we never we never reveal them
03:09 and everybody knows that that’s the case
03:11 and so we’re always sort of on the
03:14 lookout for them I’ll tell you a story
03:18 about I was in I was in high school and
03:21 I want to ask this go to the prom That’s
03:24 not me
03:26 she was super cute and friendly and she
03:29 was smart and she was funny and she
03:32 would talk to me and and I wanna ask you
03:35 a problem is great and and I was really
03:38 scared she didn’t we’d never kind of
03:39 date or anything she didn’t know I liked
03:41 her I didn’t know she liked me boy the
03:43 whole high school thing and so I’m like
03:46 okay I got I got it I got a letter I
03:47 gotta say I gotta tell her that I like
03:49 her we gotta have this conversation and
03:51 I was going through the whole thing in
03:53 my mind and it looked something like
03:54 this I was gonna sit her down and I was
03:55 gonna say to her what do you think of me
04:00 yeah fortunately I chickened out instead
04:05 of doing that and and and and that
04:07 didn’t happen but it was so obvious that
04:09 I had an agenda there even though I was
04:12 asking about her experience like
04:14 nominally what do you think of me that’s
04:16 her experience but my agenda was way the
04:19 biggest thing in the room whenever we’re
04:23 out talking to people when we say
04:25 something like I want to know about you
04:28 the first reaction is going to be why
04:30 like what’s your agenda we’re not sort
04:34 of out in the street authentically
04:36 relating to everybody because we have we
04:39 have this this implicit agreement this
04:42 agreement among everybody it goes like
04:44 this I have an agenda and you have an
04:46 agenda and let’s not talk about it and
04:48 let’s just figure out sort of subtly
04:51 what these agendas are before we open
04:53 ourselves up at all the way we get
04:57 around this in our authentic relating
04:59 communities and practices is because we
05:01 have a different agreement we have an
05:03 agreement we step into the room and we
05:05 have an agreement of let’s drop our
05:08 defenses let’s sort of let’s open up our
05:11 maybe maybe not so much reveal our
05:13 agendas maybe but let’s kind of drop our
05:16 guard for a little while and and see
05:19 what happens and we’ve all been here
05:22 like magic happens that’s why we’re all
05:23 here it is beautiful he had a good thing
05:26 happens when we have this agreement to
05:28 do something different but we can’t just
05:30 go out into the world and say to random
05:34 person on the street or even maybe my
05:36 family
05:37 hey let’s let’s let’s
05:39 you and I make a different agreement
05:40 here and drop our guards and we’ll share
05:42 deep stuff it was like what no what are
05:46 you talking about but here’s here’s
05:49 here’s like the whole key of the talk is
05:51 if you do it first you can invite other
05:56 people into that if you can’t see this
06:00 in the back there’s a couple stick
06:01 figures saying hey if you show me yours
06:04 I’ll show you mine the other ones like
06:06 okay and you open it up and like the
06:10 hearts are revealed and this really
06:11 happens if we reveal ourselves first we
06:15 invite the people with us
06:17 to reveal themselves to if we move into
06:20 an authentic position first we invite
06:24 others to go into that authentic place
06:25 as well this works really well in
06:29 relationships I have I have this
06:32 agreement with my girlfriend that we can
06:34 ask each other for a reveal if she it
06:39 might look like this if she comes to me
06:41 and says hey that conference that you
06:44 wanted to go to next week do you really
06:46 think that’s the best way to spend your
06:48 money yeah like I feel as soon as I hear
06:53 that I feel trapped and I’m about to
06:55 start defending myself about this is my
06:56 money not yours and and and and when I
07:00 for me the the little hook the trigger
07:02 is if I feel trapped from a conversation
07:06 I asked her for a reveal like hey what’s
07:09 the reveal what’s what’s kind of kind of
07:11 saying what’s your agenda but I’ll ask
07:13 her to reveal what’s going on for her
07:15 and she’s bought into this agreement and
07:17 she’s got the integrity to do it she’s
07:19 great
07:19 she’ll think about it and say we haven’t
07:23 spent a lot of time with each other
07:25 lately and I’m feeling lonely and I
07:28 don’t want you to go to this conference
07:29 and and and that changes the
07:33 conversation that changes the
07:35 conversation from from the money
07:37 conversation let’s be honest the money
07:39 fight that was about to happen there
07:40 into the thing that was really alive
07:43 because the money thing was never really
07:44 live it changes the conversation into
07:46 what’s really there this can change
07:49 relationships like I don’t know how many
07:51 fights we’ve not
07:53 because we’ve we have this agreement
07:55 which isn’t anything special it’s not
07:57 training its tell me what you’re feeling
08:00 we’re really so if there were in art too
08:06 revealing in my world this is what it
08:09 would look like and we’re doing a
08:11 breakout group on T group in a little
08:14 while which is where I learned all of
08:15 this stuff first thing is making about
08:20 you there’s a there’s when when we say
08:24 let’s reveal there’s this there’s this
08:27 idea of hey I want to I’m gonna just
08:29 shout out everything like I’m just
08:31 revealing my truth to you you’ve been a
08:33 terrible wife this isn’t really the
08:36 place for projecting for like vomiting
08:41 all over somebody make it about you if
08:43 you talk about yourself people will
08:46 listen if you talk about them they get
08:50 defensive so make it about you second
08:53 thing is reveal first this is this can
08:57 be scary
08:57 this can be vulnerable this can be risky
09:01 nobody really wants to expose themselves
09:04 without any sort of assurance that
09:06 they’re not going to get hurt in the
09:07 process of it but somebody has to go
09:11 first it may as well be us like we’re
09:14 the relational leaders here the were the
09:16 people in the community that we’ve done
09:18 a lot of work on ourselves we’ve done
09:20 the process and the growth work we can
09:22 handle our triggers we know how to how
09:25 to deal with our wounds when they come
09:26 up we should be the ones to be revealing
09:28 first this is this is how we change the
09:32 context from a context of let’s sort of
09:36 be wary of each other’s agendas into I’m
09:39 gonna reveal first I’m gonna do
09:40 something different and I hope unique
09:42 and I’m gonna invite you into it
09:45 we all have agendas anyway we may as
09:48 well reveal ours be honest about it the
09:51 last thing is revealed deeply a lot of
09:55 times encircling people say things like
09:58 oh I’m really curious about that oh I’m
10:00 really interested in that and that’s
10:01 sort of a superficial level reveal like
10:04 when I asked you guys
10:06 when I said it but I’m really curious
10:09 how much money do you make
10:11 didn’t really help there is this is one
10:15 of the best lessons I’ve learned from T
10:18 group is is there’s something underneath
10:22 my superficial reveal that has me really
10:25 wanting to ask the thing if there’s you
10:28 know why am i curious what inside me is
10:31 going on that has me curious about you
10:34 maybe it’s as basic and superficial as
10:37 hey where you from now I might not
10:41 reveal all this but what’s probably
10:42 going on is hey I don’t know you and I’m
10:45 a little uncomfortable with you and I
10:48 don’t like that like all my friends say
10:49 you’re a great guy and I would love to
10:51 get to to be comfortable around you but
10:53 I feel kind of unsafe and so I’m hoping
10:55 that if I can develop some rapport I’ll
10:58 be a little more comfortable were you
10:59 from and that’s really long-winded for
11:05 something that that light but but look
11:07 for this it’s what I call the feeling
11:09 under the feeling when I’ve done this in
11:13 my past in my practice I found that
11:15 looking for this feeling under the
11:17 feeling I find it and that actually has
11:22 me getting my world better and my self
11:27 awareness goes up it also when I’m
11:29 naming things like this it’s sort of it
11:32 it puts some Shung some sunlight on it
11:35 and I become a little more comfortable
11:37 with it and I become a little less
11:39 ashamed of some of these things and
11:40 actually in time I become more
11:42 comfortable with myself by revealing
11:44 these things that are going on last
11:48 little story I want to tell I was in a
11:51 tea group with a few people and there
11:53 was this woman who is sharing a bunch of
11:55 stuff and it was beautiful it was really
11:56 nice there’s a guy next door and he said
11:58 you blew me away
12:00 and for me that was like like there was
12:04 some that was pretty that was kind of
12:07 beautiful and you could tell there was
12:08 something going on like I’m pretty good
12:12 at reading people and I know this guy
12:14 and so I knew what was going on in
12:16 history in his history and and what like
12:19 I knew
12:20 facts about the the thing that he was
12:22 feeling and it kind of looked like
12:24 colors better here kind of look like
12:26 this picture I knew what was going on I
12:29 know what’s going on in this picture
12:30 it’s flowers it’s a seascape but it was
12:34 kind of that that level like I’m curious
12:36 about you level reveal and I was I was I
12:39 was wanting to see more and we were in
12:41 this practice and so I could ask him
12:43 like can you reveal more about that and
12:46 he did and it was it was beautiful
12:48 like when he started really going into
12:51 all the stuff that was going on for him
12:53 inside you could see like the emotion
12:55 play across his face he could see stuff
12:57 coming into his eyes there’s a little
12:59 bit of tear so you could hear his voice
13:01 waver a little bit like listening to him
13:04 my Mirren’s
13:06 my mirror neurons started firing and I
13:09 felt what it was like for him to feel
13:12 blown away and in that moment when he
13:15 was really describing what was going on
13:16 for him deeply my life my experience of
13:20 life changed from this level quality to
13:23 that quality from that quality which is
13:26 what it was normally going on to this my
13:28 whole existence sort of got a little bit
13:31 more vibrant and this is what I’m one of
13:35 the things I’m really wanting to the
13:36 reason I’m here is because this is what
13:40 I want in my life
13:41 I want to be around people that reveal
13:44 at this level of depth so that I can
13:46 feel my life around them this vibrant
13:49 and we’re relational leaders and we take
13:52 we’re the ones that people are looking
13:54 up to and so if we can take take this
13:57 idea reveal yourself deeply reveal
14:00 yourself first talk about yourself if we
14:02 can take this and reveal what’s really
14:04 going on for us the people in our lives
14:06 will have their experience go from this
14:09 to this and they’re going to want to say
14:11 what is that I want more of that
14:13 and so we by revealing ourselves more
14:17 deeply and more often in first we can
14:20 have the people around us feeling like
14:23 this and then they take that out and
14:26 they bring that into their otherwise and
14:28 it’s simple here’s what we do ready this
14:32 is what I’m feeling this is what’s
14:33 really going on for me thank you
14:38 [Applause]
00:07 talking and I said to you hey how much
00:10 money do you make who would be eager to
00:13 tell me about that like four people okay
00:18 cool
00:18 if I said instead hey I’m really curious
00:21 about you how much money do you make not
00:27 really much more what if I had said hey
00:31 I’ve got this energy healing practice
00:33 and it’s going really well and I’ve got
00:35 some great clients and they really like
00:36 the results and funny thing is I’m not
00:39 I’m not seem to be making the kind of
00:41 money I’m wanting to to like support a
00:43 life not really be able to charge the
00:46 for whatever reason the rates I think
00:48 that that I should be charging and I
00:50 don’t really know why I’ve got this
00:51 money thing going on like it’s been
00:54 around for a long time I almost didn’t
00:55 go to college because my mom didn’t want
00:57 to fill out the financial aid paperwork
00:59 like that’s that’s none of their
01:02 business we nobody needs to know about
01:04 that sort of thing so I’ve always had
01:05 this this money thing up and I’m hoping
01:07 to if I can like bring it up in
01:10 conversation and have a little openness
01:14 around it maybe have some financial
01:15 conversations it might sort of have less
01:20 of a grip on me
01:21 do you mind if I ask you how much money
01:23 do you make how many be willing to tell
01:26 me at that point almost everybody that’s
01:32 super interesting to me like why is that
01:35 this is for me it seems clear that
01:38 revealing my experience somehow has an
01:42 effect on what you guys are all willing
01:43 to share so we’re gonna talk about
01:48 revealing and part of the part of the
01:51 conversation for me in revealing is is
01:55 around agendas and so I want to start by
01:57 talking about agendas right
02:00 yeah they’re not always that bad but
02:03 here’s here’s here’s the worst kept
02:06 secret of all time you ready
02:08 we all have agendas all of the time and
02:12 we all know about it like you have
02:16 agendas your agenda in being here is to
02:18 learn about relational leadership my
02:21 agenda being here is to talk about how
02:24 wonderful revealing is and how important
02:26 I think it is and and and those are fine
02:28 no problem
02:29 we have less obvious agendas like it’s
02:33 my agenda in being here to feel good
02:36 about myself
02:37 it’s my agenda in being here to to
02:41 justify calling myself a relational
02:43 leader in front of my community so we
02:46 all have agendas here’s like big worst
02:51 kept secret number two we don’t always
02:54 reveal our agendas and we all know that
02:58 like who’s surprised by that we all have
03:01 agendas and we all we don’t always
03:03 reveal them nobody we always have
03:07 agendas we never we never reveal them
03:09 and everybody knows that that’s the case
03:11 and so we’re always sort of on the
03:14 lookout for them I’ll tell you a story
03:18 about I was in I was in high school and
03:21 I want to ask this go to the prom That’s
03:24 not me
03:26 she was super cute and friendly and she
03:29 was smart and she was funny and she
03:32 would talk to me and and I wanna ask you
03:35 a problem is great and and I was really
03:38 scared she didn’t we’d never kind of
03:39 date or anything she didn’t know I liked
03:41 her I didn’t know she liked me boy the
03:43 whole high school thing and so I’m like
03:46 okay I got I got it I got a letter I
03:47 gotta say I gotta tell her that I like
03:49 her we gotta have this conversation and
03:51 I was going through the whole thing in
03:53 my mind and it looked something like
03:54 this I was gonna sit her down and I was
03:55 gonna say to her what do you think of me
04:00 yeah fortunately I chickened out instead
04:05 of doing that and and and and that
04:07 didn’t happen but it was so obvious that
04:09 I had an agenda there even though I was
04:12 asking about her experience like
04:14 nominally what do you think of me that’s
04:16 her experience but my agenda was way the
04:19 biggest thing in the room whenever we’re
04:23 out talking to people when we say
04:25 something like I want to know about you
04:28 the first reaction is going to be why
04:30 like what’s your agenda we’re not sort
04:34 of out in the street authentically
04:36 relating to everybody because we have we
04:39 have this this implicit agreement this
04:42 agreement among everybody it goes like
04:44 this I have an agenda and you have an
04:46 agenda and let’s not talk about it and
04:48 let’s just figure out sort of subtly
04:51 what these agendas are before we open
04:53 ourselves up at all the way we get
04:57 around this in our authentic relating
04:59 communities and practices is because we
05:01 have a different agreement we have an
05:03 agreement we step into the room and we
05:05 have an agreement of let’s drop our
05:08 defenses let’s sort of let’s open up our
05:11 maybe maybe not so much reveal our
05:13 agendas maybe but let’s kind of drop our
05:16 guard for a little while and and see
05:19 what happens and we’ve all been here
05:22 like magic happens that’s why we’re all
05:23 here it is beautiful he had a good thing
05:26 happens when we have this agreement to
05:28 do something different but we can’t just
05:30 go out into the world and say to random
05:34 person on the street or even maybe my
05:36 family
05:37 hey let’s let’s let’s
05:39 you and I make a different agreement
05:40 here and drop our guards and we’ll share
05:42 deep stuff it was like what no what are
05:46 you talking about but here’s here’s
05:49 here’s like the whole key of the talk is
05:51 if you do it first you can invite other
05:56 people into that if you can’t see this
06:00 in the back there’s a couple stick
06:01 figures saying hey if you show me yours
06:04 I’ll show you mine the other ones like
06:06 okay and you open it up and like the
06:10 hearts are revealed and this really
06:11 happens if we reveal ourselves first we
06:15 invite the people with us
06:17 to reveal themselves to if we move into
06:20 an authentic position first we invite
06:24 others to go into that authentic place
06:25 as well this works really well in
06:29 relationships I have I have this
06:32 agreement with my girlfriend that we can
06:34 ask each other for a reveal if she it
06:39 might look like this if she comes to me
06:41 and says hey that conference that you
06:44 wanted to go to next week do you really
06:46 think that’s the best way to spend your
06:48 money yeah like I feel as soon as I hear
06:53 that I feel trapped and I’m about to
06:55 start defending myself about this is my
06:56 money not yours and and and and when I
07:00 for me the the little hook the trigger
07:02 is if I feel trapped from a conversation
07:06 I asked her for a reveal like hey what’s
07:09 the reveal what’s what’s kind of kind of
07:11 saying what’s your agenda but I’ll ask
07:13 her to reveal what’s going on for her
07:15 and she’s bought into this agreement and
07:17 she’s got the integrity to do it she’s
07:19 great
07:19 she’ll think about it and say we haven’t
07:23 spent a lot of time with each other
07:25 lately and I’m feeling lonely and I
07:28 don’t want you to go to this conference
07:29 and and and that changes the
07:33 conversation that changes the
07:35 conversation from from the money
07:37 conversation let’s be honest the money
07:39 fight that was about to happen there
07:40 into the thing that was really alive
07:43 because the money thing was never really
07:44 live it changes the conversation into
07:46 what’s really there this can change
07:49 relationships like I don’t know how many
07:51 fights we’ve not
07:53 because we’ve we have this agreement
07:55 which isn’t anything special it’s not
07:57 training its tell me what you’re feeling
08:00 we’re really so if there were in art too
08:06 revealing in my world this is what it
08:09 would look like and we’re doing a
08:11 breakout group on T group in a little
08:14 while which is where I learned all of
08:15 this stuff first thing is making about
08:20 you there’s a there’s when when we say
08:24 let’s reveal there’s this there’s this
08:27 idea of hey I want to I’m gonna just
08:29 shout out everything like I’m just
08:31 revealing my truth to you you’ve been a
08:33 terrible wife this isn’t really the
08:36 place for projecting for like vomiting
08:41 all over somebody make it about you if
08:43 you talk about yourself people will
08:46 listen if you talk about them they get
08:50 defensive so make it about you second
08:53 thing is reveal first this is this can
08:57 be scary
08:57 this can be vulnerable this can be risky
09:01 nobody really wants to expose themselves
09:04 without any sort of assurance that
09:06 they’re not going to get hurt in the
09:07 process of it but somebody has to go
09:11 first it may as well be us like we’re
09:14 the relational leaders here the were the
09:16 people in the community that we’ve done
09:18 a lot of work on ourselves we’ve done
09:20 the process and the growth work we can
09:22 handle our triggers we know how to how
09:25 to deal with our wounds when they come
09:26 up we should be the ones to be revealing
09:28 first this is this is how we change the
09:32 context from a context of let’s sort of
09:36 be wary of each other’s agendas into I’m
09:39 gonna reveal first I’m gonna do
09:40 something different and I hope unique
09:42 and I’m gonna invite you into it
09:45 we all have agendas anyway we may as
09:48 well reveal ours be honest about it the
09:51 last thing is revealed deeply a lot of
09:55 times encircling people say things like
09:58 oh I’m really curious about that oh I’m
10:00 really interested in that and that’s
10:01 sort of a superficial level reveal like
10:04 when I asked you guys
10:06 when I said it but I’m really curious
10:09 how much money do you make
10:11 didn’t really help there is this is one
10:15 of the best lessons I’ve learned from T
10:18 group is is there’s something underneath
10:22 my superficial reveal that has me really
10:25 wanting to ask the thing if there’s you
10:28 know why am i curious what inside me is
10:31 going on that has me curious about you
10:34 maybe it’s as basic and superficial as
10:37 hey where you from now I might not
10:41 reveal all this but what’s probably
10:42 going on is hey I don’t know you and I’m
10:45 a little uncomfortable with you and I
10:48 don’t like that like all my friends say
10:49 you’re a great guy and I would love to
10:51 get to to be comfortable around you but
10:53 I feel kind of unsafe and so I’m hoping
10:55 that if I can develop some rapport I’ll
10:58 be a little more comfortable were you
10:59 from and that’s really long-winded for
11:05 something that that light but but look
11:07 for this it’s what I call the feeling
11:09 under the feeling when I’ve done this in
11:13 my past in my practice I found that
11:15 looking for this feeling under the
11:17 feeling I find it and that actually has
11:22 me getting my world better and my self
11:27 awareness goes up it also when I’m
11:29 naming things like this it’s sort of it
11:32 it puts some Shung some sunlight on it
11:35 and I become a little more comfortable
11:37 with it and I become a little less
11:39 ashamed of some of these things and
11:40 actually in time I become more
11:42 comfortable with myself by revealing
11:44 these things that are going on last
11:48 little story I want to tell I was in a
11:51 tea group with a few people and there
11:53 was this woman who is sharing a bunch of
11:55 stuff and it was beautiful it was really
11:56 nice there’s a guy next door and he said
11:58 you blew me away
12:00 and for me that was like like there was
12:04 some that was pretty that was kind of
12:07 beautiful and you could tell there was
12:08 something going on like I’m pretty good
12:12 at reading people and I know this guy
12:14 and so I knew what was going on in
12:16 history in his history and and what like
12:19 I knew
12:20 facts about the the thing that he was
12:22 feeling and it kind of looked like
12:24 colors better here kind of look like
12:26 this picture I knew what was going on I
12:29 know what’s going on in this picture
12:30 it’s flowers it’s a seascape but it was
12:34 kind of that that level like I’m curious
12:36 about you level reveal and I was I was I
12:39 was wanting to see more and we were in
12:41 this practice and so I could ask him
12:43 like can you reveal more about that and
12:46 he did and it was it was beautiful
12:48 like when he started really going into
12:51 all the stuff that was going on for him
12:53 inside you could see like the emotion
12:55 play across his face he could see stuff
12:57 coming into his eyes there’s a little
12:59 bit of tear so you could hear his voice
13:01 waver a little bit like listening to him
13:04 my Mirren’s
13:06 my mirror neurons started firing and I
13:09 felt what it was like for him to feel
13:12 blown away and in that moment when he
13:15 was really describing what was going on
13:16 for him deeply my life my experience of
13:20 life changed from this level quality to
13:23 that quality from that quality which is
13:26 what it was normally going on to this my
13:28 whole existence sort of got a little bit
13:31 more vibrant and this is what I’m one of
13:35 the things I’m really wanting to the
13:36 reason I’m here is because this is what
13:40 I want in my life
13:41 I want to be around people that reveal
13:44 at this level of depth so that I can
13:46 feel my life around them this vibrant
13:49 and we’re relational leaders and we take
13:52 we’re the ones that people are looking
13:54 up to and so if we can take take this
13:57 idea reveal yourself deeply reveal
14:00 yourself first talk about yourself if we
14:02 can take this and reveal what’s really
14:04 going on for us the people in our lives
14:06 will have their experience go from this
14:09 to this and they’re going to want to say
14:11 what is that I want more of that
14:13 and so we by revealing ourselves more
14:17 deeply and more often in first we can
14:20 have the people around us feeling like
14:23 this and then they take that out and
14:26 they bring that into their otherwise and
14:28 it’s simple here’s what we do ready this
14:32 is what I’m feeling this is what’s
14:33 really going on for me thank you
14:38 [Applause]
Very clear and comfortable presentation. I liked your hand signals with the fists. Thinking more would be good. Congrats.
Nice presentation. Kind of reminds me of Wayne Dyer !